An Angry E-mail

I was recently sent this e-mail via my Myspace account and I believe it explains the mindset of those who are very anti-interracial dating:

"I have been on record for years as saying ALL IR'S, yes ALL INTERRACIAL ROMANCES between blacks and whites are deeply rooted in white supremacist ideology. Black men desire white women because they are seemed as the 'icons' of beauty. Black women desire white men because they are seemed as 'less hostile, smart, more faithful, more honest, more flexible, etc...' than black men. White women desire black men because they are seemed more virile, more physically endowed. They desire that sexual black buck. And white men desire black women because black women are seemed as wild sexual animals with insatiable sexual desires. In white supremacy, both black men and black women are seemed as 'super lovers'. The ultimate sexual experience.

I'll dispute any notion of interracial love. Interracial relationships are not love, they are purely the manifestation of the subconscious, or not so subconscious, white supremacist brainwashing sewn into every fabric of 'American' culture."

Here's my response to this:

I think people are over analyzing this issue.

If whites had never enslaved blacks in America do you think blacks wouldn't be attracted to their white counterparts? The science of attraction supercedes racism.

There isn't person in this country who can deny what I said about regardless of whatever happened in America, whites and blacks would still be attracted to one another. It's foolish for anyone to say otherwise.

Since it's natural for men and women to be attracted to one another it doesn't take a rocket scientist to understand that BM/BW would be attracted to WM/WW regardless of racism or slavery.

Use common sense please.

Why I Prefer To Date White Women

I'll probably get lynched by black women for writing about why, over the years, I've dated so many white females, but here goes. I've heard every cliche there is on the subject and have been accused of "selling out" enough times to have the strength of character to define myself by who I am, not who I choose to sleep with.

Do I have an unhealthy predilection for white flesh; do I have I have identity issues; am I ashamed of my "race"; or am I on the make? None of the above. But as a black man living in a predominantly white environment, what am I supposed to do, don a bow tie, and build myself a mud hut in order to "keep it real."?

Black women in particular give me a hard time when they see me out with my white girlfriend. They tell me I've "got a thing for white girls" because they're an "easy ride". Believe me, no woman is an easy ride, but I have to admit there is a grain of truth in this statement. Black women do tend to give us a hard time.

Black men are usually a lot less critical of interracial relationships, mainly because at any given moment a noticable amount of them are in one.

I'm often asked why so many of us date white women. Undoubtedly there are those who have a preference for white women, much as they might have a fetish for tall women, or busty ones. White women are as exotic to black men as say Asian or oriental women are to white men. But I cite approachability and common interests as some of the important factors when it comes to why I date white women.

White Women, Black Men: Illicit Sex in the Nineteenth-Century South

White Women, Black Men is a fascinating study of a category of interracial relationships that conventional wisdom has held did not exist: liaisons (the term author Martha Hodes prefers) between black men and white women in the antebellum South. Hodes shows how such relationships were tolerated, though not encouraged, to a surprising degree before the Civil War. In a fascinating feat of historical detective work, she uses court documents and other records in cases involving racial status, rape, divorce, and property, to explore the nature of these relationships. She shows white women who voluntarily gave up their privileged status to cohabit with black men, and white communities that turned a blind eye toward such unions.

Loving a White Woman and Being Proud of It

To love any woman is the greatest life experience. To be loved by that woman makes living the pains of life bearable but, most of all exciting. To those black men who are being made to feel ashamed for loving a white woman I say this. You go ahead and love that woman and be proud doing so because, if there is one thing that is timeless and precious its the love of a good woman. You walk proudly with her on the street. Hold her hands, hug her and tell her everyday that you love her. A white woman is no different from other races of women. She is made to feel different because, of the legacy of history. In addition, when you express your unconditional love for her, tell her how proud you are of her.